Loved Ones Remember Lynnie Loucks’ Laugh – Brainerd Dispatch
BRAINERD — Goofy, colorful, she had a laugh that was as memorable as it was contagious.
This is how family members remember Lynnie Loucks – a wife, mother and best friend who was contagious with life. Loucks, 43, was murdered April 28 at a residence north of Brainerd.
“Not only did I have a mom, because she was only five years older than me, but I also had a best friend,” said Trisha Szczodroski, Lynnie’s stepdaughter. “Someone who taught me what it was to be a woman, how to wear makeup and how to care about dressing. She loved to dress up.
Lynnie Loucks went through life with one goal: to make everyone’s day better, her family said.
“I just remember the very first time I met her,” Lynnie’s husband Dennis Loucks said. “It was right after her mother passed away and…what I remember vividly is that there’s something different about this girl.”
Married in 1997, Dennis Loucks said from the moment they met he knew she was a unique person with a joy and drive that just isn’t seen in many people these days.
The couple owned and operated LA Portrait Studio in Willmar for seven years and in the Brainerd Lakes region for three more before Lynnie returned to school for cosmetology.
“In the photography studio, I loved, absolutely loved, working with her,” Dennis Loucks said. “It was probably the best time in our marriage when we were able to be together and work together all the time. And she did really well, (she) just got exhausted in front of the computer.
One thing caught Dennis Loucks’ attention – Lynnie’s generous spirit and the way she didn’t think twice about it. He recalled that she wasn’t shy about letting people know if they were a bad tip.
“You better tip a good tip,” Dennis Loucks said. “She always cared about people and wanted to put a smile on someone’s face. That’s who she was.
And she could do it in about 15 minutes, or the time it would take to get a haircut, Szczodroski said. So many people were going back to her to get their hair cut because of who she was. Her family often suggested that Lynnie start her own business.
But leaving her colleagues and the place where she was able to meet new people was out of the question, Szczodroski said.
Meeting Lynnie almost seven years ago while she was having her hair cut, Rachel Cain said they had become friends over the past two years and started having “dates with mom” as they went along. her children were growing up.
“Last October, she called out of the blue (and asked): ‘Do you want to take a trip with mom,’ Cain said. “I’m like, absolutely. So we spent a week in Florida in November , just to get away from it all.
They had no plan, Cain said, they just wanted to see the ocean and go swimming. But the cafe was never too far because “we had to stop for coffee – always”.
Dennis Loucks had children from a previous marriage, but Lynnie was “Grandma Lynnie” in the eyes of the grandchildren.
Cain said that Lynnie has always loved children. No matter whose children they were, she was there to make their day better.
“When I was 17 and moved away because I thought I knew better, she would come and meet me and bring me money and just make sure I was okay and say, ‘Don’t don’t tell your dad,'” Szczodroski said. “You know, he wouldn’t even have cared, but it was just his thing.” She always wanted to make sure I was taken care of.
Szczodroski said she remembers many times when, as a new mom, she was exhausted and Lynnie would come over and have all the kids play a game or work on a puzzle because “Lynnie always had something fun to do with the kids.”
“She was always very active with the kids, whether it was my kids or her kids.” says Szczodroski. “She taught me so much about being a mom.”
Lynnie came into their lives when Szczodroski was in sixth grade. It was just her and her dad, barely making it through the day, Szczodroski said, but when Lynnie arrived she “saved my heart, more than she’ll ever know.”
“I can still sit here today and think about her and the first thing you do is hear her laugh, such an infectious laugh that could light up an entire room,” Szczodroski said.
Szczodroski recalled a time when Lynnie was pregnant with her oldest child, Zoe.
“I remember her dancing and cleaning and just being clumsy. Here, she’s completely pregnant, she’s playing Elvis, and she took a popsicle out of the freezer, and she started singing into it like it was a microphone,” Szczodroski said. “She dances, laughs, giggles and sings all at the same time…and four hours later, she gives birth and gives birth.”
Lynnie had four children and Dennis Loucks said she pretty much laughed at her babies. But it was still her, still who she was, he said. His demeanor was just laughing and spreading joy.
Dennis Loucks said they never talked about getting a divorce after their split and plan to remain friends for the rest of their lives.
Preparing for Lynnie’s funeral, Dennis Loucks walked through years of family memories.
“It was both – it was bittersweet and just harsh, but it’s his joy that I will remember and carry with me,” Dennis Loucks said.
A memorial service for Lynnie Loucks will be held Saturday, May 14 at Heritage Church in Baxter. There will be a visitation for friends and family from 1 to 4 p.m., with service beginning at 4 p.m. Arrangements are with the Brenny Family Funeral Chapel in Baxter.
Lynnie Ann Loucks obituary is available at https://bit.ly/3NawTpN.
The family created a website, www.lynnieslegacy.life/ to honor Lynnie and create a place where people can share their stories of Lynnie.
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